In Bengali marriage ritual, the bride is often handed a fish that is alive. The auspiciousness of the new marriage is gauged by how long the fish is held. The longer you can hold it, the better your marriage will be.
Clarice Lispector wrote in The Passion According to G.H. “… did something truly alive collapse the morality I had?”
Love is what is truly alive.
Love is a freshly caught fish writhing in your hands. Hold it if you can.